More and more couples are opting to have a friend or family member perform their wedding ceremony. This will be the most memorable part of the wedding, possibly for good reasons, possibly for bad ones. We help you make sure it's for the good ones.


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Thinking about BECOMING AN AMATEUR OFFICIANT or USING AN AMATEUR OFFICIANT at your wedding? Get a FREE informational PDF below with details that will help you decide!


So many of our friends and family said that our ceremony was the most entertaining and memorable they had ever seen. We are so glad that we decided to use our best friend as the officiant, and even happier that we gave him a copy of “The Amateur Officiant” eBook!
— Justin & Missy (Newlyweds!)

THE MISSION

Amateur Officiant is a community focused on helping first time officiants to plan, write, rehearse, perform, and enjoy their first wedding. By way of products, blogs, community, and consulting, Amateur Officiant takes the fear and anxiety out of your first performance and ensures that you, and more importantly the bride and groom, will be proud of the ceremony!

WHY I STARTED THIS SITE

  Gary Hoppe is the author of  "The Amateur Officiant" eBook. He is an amateur officiant many times over and writes on the creative officiant process, overcoming anxiety, delivering a great ceremony, and on how being an amateur officiant can change your life.

Gary Hoppe is the author of  "The Amateur Officiant" eBook. He is an amateur officiant many times over and writes on the creative officiant process, overcoming anxiety, delivering a great ceremony, and on how being an amateur officiant can change your life.

In 2009 two friends, completely out of the blue, asked me to be the amateur officiant for their wedding. Without giving it much thought, I replied, “yes, of course!” 

Shortly after I agreed, I began to think about delivering on what I had promised them. What would I say? What is the format of an amateur ceremony? How do I get ordained? How do I overcome my paralyzing fear of public speaking? Who am I to be such an integral part of a life-changing event for two people I care about? Are amateurly officiated weddings even legal in this state?!?!?

I quickly turned to the internet in hopes of having my questions answered and my fears calmed.  Much to my dismay, the internet provided no information on how to write, rehearse, and perform a ceremony as an amateur officiant.

I was on my own, and that first ceremony showed it.  I cringe when I go back and watch the tape. My writing was wandering and sometimes irrelevant, my delivery was fast and emotionless, my interaction with the audience was non-existent, and it was visibly obvious that I was so nervous that I was about to lose consciousness.

Despite my self graded C- performance; the audience really seemed to enjoy the ceremony. In fact, I was asked to perform another shortly after, and another, and another, and another.  I eventually had to start declining offers. There in lies the secret. Amateur officiants are so unique, so novel, and so interesting that you don’t need to deliver a perfect performance to wow the crowd and make the bride and groom happy. If you simply follow a few rules and guidelines regarding writing, preparation, rehearsing, and delivery, you will KNOCK IT OUT OF THE PARK! "The Amateur Officiant" eBook walks you step by step through the writing, rehearsing, and performing process. You CAN do this!

These experiences, along with attending some other mistake laden performances by other first time amateurs, inspired me to create a community where terrified first timers could get some help and support.  I wish it existed in 2009!

Welcome to AmateurOfficiant.com!